“Christians Don’t Get Divorced”
I grew up in church, where marriage was held sacred and divorce, often spoken about in hushed tones. Sometimes it was framed as acceptable only under very specific circumstances. Somewhere along the way, the message I absorbed was simple and heavy: if you love God enough, divorce won’t be part of your story.
But life doesn’t always unfold the way we expect.
I entered marriage with sincere vows, deep faith, and every intention of building a forever. I believed I was doing everything “right.” And yet, years later, I found myself walking through a divorce, something I never imagined for my life and never wanted to face.
Divorce can feel like failure, especially within Christian spaces. It can come with shame, isolation, and the fear that you’ve disappointed God or fallen outside of His will. For those experiencing emotional abuse, manipulation, or ongoing harm, the confusion can be even deeper, especially when you’re told to endure at all costs.
But Scripture tells a fuller story.
God’s heart has always been for love, safety, humility, and peace, not fear, control, or destruction.
There were moments when people let me down, when support I expected never came, and silence spoke louder than words. But this is not a story meant to condemn the Church or invite pity. It’s a reminder that people are imperfect, but God is not.
Over time, God gently reminded me of truths I desperately needed:
That He sees what happens behind closed doors
That He does not ask His children to stay where they are being harmed
That His grace is not revoked by divorce
“God has called us to live in peace.”
—1 Corinthians 7:15
If you are walking through divorce right now, please hear this: you are not alone.
You will grieve…not only what was, but what you hoped could be. You may feel afraid of starting over, unsure of the future, or disappointed that your life doesn’t look the way you prayed it would. Those feelings are real, and they matter.
But this season will not have the final word.
“And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love Him.”
—Romans 8:28
God is near in the unraveling. He is gentle with the brokenhearted. He is capable of redeeming even the chapters you never wanted to write.
What you thought might destroy you can become the very place where God strengthens you, restores you, and leads you into deeper freedom.
“See, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up; do you not perceive it?”
—Isaiah 43:19
If your marriage ended, that does not mean your faith failed. If you chose safety, peace, or healing, that does not mean you chose wrong. God is not done with your story and He does not take anything from you without the intention of restoring in His perfect, loving way.
Hold on. You will get through this. And you are still deeply loved by God.